Hey ladies! Today I’m writing to you about the importance of understanding feminine vs. masculine energy, especially when it comes to dating.
Most of us in dating and even long-term relationships choose to believe that we are “equal” or should be thought of in the same level as men. Let me tell you ladies, unfortunately that couldn’t be farther from the truth. We need to stop treating this as a competition or trying to prove to men and others in society that we are the same, because we simply are different creatures, biologically and in all other aspects.
We need to start embracing our femininity as women and our power in that energy within itself. Haven’t you heard? Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus (more on that later in a following post about our differences – stay tuned). But the topic for now is: what is feminine energy?
We live in a masculine energized world so it’s very hard to embrace our feminine energies but feminine energy is not about being beautiful or pretty, in fact it has very little to do with physical attributes, because it is about energy.
Feminine energy is characterized by:
- Receiving
- Being
- Intuitive
- Your senses
- Creativity
- Experiencing
- Expression
- Vulnerability
- Patience
- Empathy
- Being supportive
- Playfulness
- Compassion
- Surrendering
- Understanding
- Radiance
- Being emotional
- Allowing
- Passive
- Leaning back
Masculine energy is characterized by:
- Doing
- Going after goals, ambitions – goal-oriented
- Pursuing
- Leaning forward
- Driven
- Competitive
- Direct
- Assertive
- Active
- Giving
- Strength
- Providing
- Protection
- Being practical
- Courage
- Discipline
- Power
- Logic
- Structure
- Confidence
- Rigid
So you will find that both categories have attributes that apply to you, or ones that you aspire to have. I’m not saying you should only embrace the feminine and get rid of the masculine. In fact, it is vital to have both – it’s sort of a yin and yang where you have to have a balance.
In the workplace, we typically strive to embrace our masculine energies, it’s actually vital to our success. However, in dating, it’s important to embrace your feminine energy and let the man lead with his masculine energy. If you are embracing your masculine energy in dating, you will typically find that things will fade out pretty quickly with a man who has masculine energy or you might find that you are attracting feminine men who prefer a women to lead and pursue. The polarity has to be balanced otherwise you might set yourself up for failure in the dating game.
If you want a man to pursue and chase after you and keep pursuing and chasing after you long after he’s got you, you need to remain in your feminine energy: lean back, let him pursue and text, plan the dates, open the door for you, carry in your groceries, pay for dates, whatever it might be and just enjoy it! Receive all of his wonderful actions and pursuits graciously and openly – but be appreciative! Make sure to thank him, but not over the top of course, but enough that he feels appreciated by you. One of a man’s love needs is appreciation (I’ll share more about women’s and men’s love needs in a separate post) so it’s important you always reward the positive activity with some positive commentary, feedback or just a kind thank you.
In life, it’s important to create a balance of these energies to feel happy- if you are too much in your masculine, you will burn out quickly and feel overwhelmed and stressed and exhausted overall. If you are not in your masculine at all, then you won’t achieve much – so it’s important to keep the best balance and also know where to embrace your energies and in what settings.
So go out there and embrace your femininity ladies – lean back, take it all in and enjoy ; )
